Recently the topic of the hook-up culture has been rolling around my brain. Why do mindless hookup’s feel like the only option for Gen Z intimacy in 2023? Why is hooking up the new standard form of connection? When did taking it slow and having a genuine rapport with someone vanish to using each other to fill our insecurities and anxieties?

We could talk about how the internet is re-wiring our brains. But we simply grew up accustomed to having everything we wanted at our fingertips. Making our dopamine hits feel less meaningful and detaching meaning from being. This isn’t how the generation before use used their tools. Thus, there is a disconnect.

It can be isolating not knowing how to form a relationship that doesn’t make me feel empty. This personal project to create connection implies that you can create a connection within the hookup culture we are living in. You must be intentional and mindful about how you choose to connect with people. 

Take what resonates; leave what doesn’t.