People Change

I had a few little reminders and realizations today that I thought I would share

The backstory: I met this girl at an after-school photography class in 2019. She was super chill and we kept in touch via followed each other on Instagram. She had DM’d me asking where my pants were from that she saw on my Instagram story. After chit-chatting over DM I asked if she wanted to hang out for a bit sometime this week. The time that worked best for us ended up being the very next morning. Granted I haven’t seen or spoken to this girl since her birthday party in February of 2020.

We met up at General Porpoise and as we sipped our coffees and ate our donuts we starting to talk about where we are in our lives. Right of the bat, I could tell that we as people had changed. Sometimes I forget how immensely I have changed in the last 18 months. How change is really the only consistent thing in our lives. I am learning that I may be more comfortable with change due to always moving schools and where I have lived. Which I am starting to see what a gift that has been.

She starts talking about how since quarantine she really doesn’t have too many friends, and that a lot of people are fake and just didn’t stick around. I instantly related to her and referred to one conversation we had back in 8th grade (2019) and how I had no friends and felt lonely all the time. I remember telling this to her and she seemed surprised and almost —-, think back to when you were in 8th grade if someone told you they didn’t have friends wouldn't you think that was odd and that they might be weird? Well, I think that is how she us-to feel about me.

We started talking about how much has changed in our lives. Even mentally, our mindsets. The way we looked at our life experiences changed during quarantine and since the last time, we saw each other. It was kinda inspiring because in a lot of ways I was in the same position and train of thought as she was not too long ago. It forced me to look at my own self-growth in a good way.

Sometimes I feel like when I don’t see someone for so long it can feel like we aren’t connected. We don’t really know each other anymore, or what’s going on in our lives. With some people over a year of not speaking to someone can mean that we aren’t necessarily friends anymore or the connection is gone. But there is something impactful about not having to see friends every few weeks or days to still feel like you know what’s going on in their life or what’s important to them. Now I don’t have too many of these types of friends but the ones that I do we can spend 2 minutes chit-chatting, and we instantly go into a conversational grove. There is also something about not seeing someone too often, there are so many experiences that happened in a year. We don’t talk about what we ate for breakfast but rather new recipes we have been trying in the last few months. We don’t talk about the drama going on with one friend at the moment but rather more significant meaningful arguments that we were able to grow our other relationships from. I didn’t realize until today, but I don’t have many friends that live in my city that I don’t see on the regular.

skirt: old Kate Spade/ Top: old TopShop/ denim jacket: Daily Disco earrings: old Jcrew